Junior League of High Point Showhouse set & styling with Ray Langhammer for designer Libby Langdon, plus Scot M. Wood - adjacent Dining Room designer.
But that new world also came with a price - health decline from sitting too much, weight gain, eyesight loss, pinched nerves, neck, back, hand muscle aches (even tearing my meniscus while cleaning) and an uncomfortable lingering stress of keeping up with the Jones'. Health & wellness was furthest from my mind, until cancer struck a close friend (killed another), Parkinson's took another close family friend, my husbands sister was diagnosed with early onset Alzheimer's (now stage 5-6), and my moms diabetes landed her in the hospital - now she's on dialysis treatments three days a week in Miami. Turning fifty had me heading into a downward spiral I didn't like, so I made changes to my lifestyle.
Salem Lake Trail - Winston Salem
Compound all of the above with my husband being let go at his job (after twenty years with the company - and the reasons for our moves, now feeling trapped). At this point, I was mentally drained. All strong reasons why I just had to STOP - stop everything, and reevaluate the purpose of it all (blogging and social media). Downing Cokes and sugary foods & Advil to power through sitting at a computer for hours on end, researching, resourcing, comparing, and striving for new daily content is not living. Taking NyQuil shots to knock me out so I could sleep. FOMO of events and worrying all the time if someone is going to copy or steal my content / photos (even after taking more time to watermark) -- plus documenting all the correct lingo + link-backs for copyrights of others, truly just drained all of the joy out of blogging - So yes, I stopped blogging for a while, and refocused myself to living with intent.
Reynolda Park - Winston Salem
My intent now is ensuring a work / life balance - practiced, not just preached. What started as stop drinking soda, a major cut back on sugary foods (alcohol too), and making sure I move my ass daily (counting steps + using tracking apps) lead to a major pantry purge and shift in the foods, not only I eat, but my husband and pets too. Together we also have incorporated a weekly nature trail walk in nearby parks, a great means of breathing in fresh air plus clearing a cluttered mind - and this past year, speaking of decluttering, I've been focused on 'letting go of stuff'. We've lived here now for five years - no moves in sight to prompt a purge, and things do accumulate.
It's all still a work in progress, but I feel so much better than before - so much so that the second I slip up (over indulge in sugar, not eating enough leafy greens or getting enough sleep) I feel it right away - sluggish, nauseous, out of balance - and that's no way to live.
SBC Innovation Quarter - Winston Salem
Pivot back to blogging, a task I have struggled with continuing during my hiatus, (is blogging dead?), and I believe, similar to sweets or anything in life for that matter, in moderation and with intent, it can still add value to the reader, as well as my life - or now brand - Focal Point Styling... especially since my husband and I are planting more permanent roots here in The Triad. Recently, I have even been taking some refresher classes on blogging, social media and business at Wake Forest's Innovation Quarter, Small Business Center here in Winston Salem.
Blogging daily as I was when I first began ten years ago I cannot do - but blogging a few times a month going forward is feasible. In 2020 though, I may need to step it up and make the shift to Squarespace or Wordpress. As for the content, I'll continue to focus on interior styling, layering in more home organizing tips & tricks, along with continued sharing local love for small businesses and industry events.
My sweetie & I at Greensboro Fashion Week
How have YOU been? What's new with you?
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Thanks for stopping by!
It is soo good to see you back!! I have always enjoyed your creative and economical ways of Thrifting and Organizing.. I have been following you for YEARS!! Love the LONG hair..
ReplyDeleteThank you kindly GAPattons!! The long hair is SO much easier to take care of and maintain (vs. having 6-8 salon trips a year - Now it's just one!) Huge money saver + less stress !!
DeleteSo glad you're doing well! I've missed your posts. You're such an inspiration for my decorating! Can't wait to see more!❤
ReplyDeleteThank you!! Happy to inspire!
DeleteHappy that you've found your way back to blogging. I've missed you! Have always admired your design style. Your health and well-being come first so please take care of yourself. But I have to admit that I'm really ready to see your posts again! xoxo
ReplyDeleteThank you so much Heather!! Eager to re-start sharing here, but have been continuing microblogging on Facebook & Inta in the meantime ;)
DeleteI have felt all of those things and I didn’t even blog as much as you! Glad to see you’re finding balance, and peaking my interest in classes. I should look into that. I have so much to learn! Anyway, your name has always popped up here and there in my “social circles” and I’m glad I saw this post.
ReplyDeleteThanks Christine!! Since I'm wanting to be more "localized", I found some interesting class offerings (for free) at our local business center. In January, I'm taking 4 generational marketing classes to learn how to target: Baby Boomers, Millennials, Gen X and Gen Z. Should be interesting!
DeleteHi Lynda ~ I, too, am so glad to see you back to blogging. As you know, we've known each other for a long time now, and have been woven in and out of each other's professional lives in lots of ways. You are such an amazingly talented woman at whatever you take on, and it makes me happy to know you *took on* the challenge of making yourself healthy and sane again, after what you've shared here.
ReplyDeleteIt's very good to see you back, doing what you do, but in a healthier *space*, and I look forward to future blog posts and collaborations.
Thank you very much 'Unknown' - It is still a "work-in-progress" to balance a healthy lifestyle AND maintain relevance in blogland - but all I can do is try :) Thank you for stopping by!
DeleteSo smart of you to stop and take stock of what is most important to you! I have also recently been making time to take better care of myself and get healthier so this really resonates. You are a hero in blog and pinterest-land so we are all glad to see you back, but also really glad to see you making a balanced life a priority!
ReplyDeleteThank you so much Janet!!
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